Sarah and Holly

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How to share your photos and videos with us!

If you attended our wedding and took photos and videos we need them!!

WeddingMix by Storymix Media
We’re using WeddingMix to create a wedding video from all of the videos (and photos) you shot on your phones or cameras. But, if you didn’t use the WeddingMix App on your phone, don’t fret, you can still share your videos with very easily. Just download the app now, input our code: ALLSUTTONEDUP, select “Add photo or video” and then choose “import.” Or, if you used a standalone camera, instead of using a DVD or USB drive, you just upload your content directly to our wedding using this link: (500mb limit per file).


Thank you so much! We’re excited to share the video that YOU helped create!

Make sure you get on this right away as this upload link will only work for 3 weeks after the wedding. Also, if you’re camera creates files that are not .mp4 or .move and you need help converting them: check out this simple tutorial:

Thank you all for being part of our day!


Our Mobster Themed Bachelorette Party!


Holy crap this is getting crazy! I really need to stop changing the “Due Date” on my Tasks List. Christmas is only a few days away and after New Year’s it’s a blink away from our wedding.

I gave an update a few months ago about what was currently on my “To-Do” list including:

  • Meet with DJ & Ceremony Musicians
  • Meet with Caterer
  • List for rental company (still needs a few additions)
  • Honeymoon Viva Italia!
  • Mail Save the Dates
  • Fitting for Holly

Not on the list, but also done:

  • Purchased items for centerpiece & other decor items (huge love to my future in-laws for their help on this!!)
  • Purchased table linens
  • Talked to florist

I didn’t realize until right now how much I had gotten done! I tend to focus on the things yet to do without realizing what’s already been accomplished! While we still need to finalize our menu with the caterer, they’re booked for both the wedding and rehearsal dinner! We have met with our DJ and hammered out a lot of details there, but still have to meet with our ceremony musicians, that’s scheduled for after the holidays.

Here are the next batch of items on my list!

  • Accessories for both brides’ outfits
  • Send information/confirmation to Bridal Henchman
  • Book extra servers and parking attendants
  • Meet with officiant
  • Lock in people doing special readings
  • Design Invitations
  • Design Programs
  • Name change
  • Book hair/makeup
  • Care packages for restrooms
  • “Oh Sh*t” Kit
  • Finalize menu for wedding and rehearsal dinner

Five months, kids!!

Party Bus!

We are so excited that Moses Lake Party Bus is providing transportation for our wedding! If you have any upcoming holiday parties and don’t want to worry about finding a driver, take advantage of this awesome service.




Lesbian Wedding 101: How to be supportive of something you’re not sure you support

This post originally appeared on one of my favorite wedding planning websites Offbeat Bride on April 2nd.

As you can imagine, being part of a two-chick couple is not always simple on a cultural level. Holly and I are incredibly fortunate to live in a time when it’s fairly accepted and generally safe for us to be together openly. We also live in a state where’s it’s been legal for two ladies or two dudes to get married for almost four years now, yay, Washington!

We’re from the “red” side of WA that did not approve the marriage equality bill.

AND, as of June 26 of this year, the Supreme court made this superfluous by declaring that banning marriage for those of us of the queer persuasion is unconstitutional under the 14th Amendment!

While we have a great group of friends and family (and even acquaintances or relative strangers!) that love us and are extremely excited for us, there are plenty of people who still struggle with accepting that us being together is both normal and good. Perhaps you’re one of them. You might also be unsure if you’re going to be comfortable coming to the wedding.

While you struggle with your answer to the RSVP, allow me to share a few thoughts to consider.

**Note: I’m not of the mindset that every marriage must be “blessed” by God. The existence of civil marriage and the separation of Church and state creates a healthy space where free people can enter into marriage on whatever premises they both choose. I consider this an important component of a free society. But, the following assumes a religious or quasi religious perspective on marriage.**


When you attend a wedding you are doing two things: witnessing the marriage vows and celebrating the love and commitment of the couple. The question to ask is: is my acting as a witness to these vows and celebrating the love of these two people dishonoring to God?

It’s a question many people I care deeply about are struggling with. This is actually a good thing, in fact, I think we should probably struggle with it a bit more.

The marriage sacrament, as it exists today, is not what it was 1,000 or even 100 years ago. We tend to romanticize the history of marriage with fairy tales about true love but generally speaking, the motivation for marriage more frequently had to do with convenience, safety, money, property or power. Often, it was a kind of slavery. These practices still exist. We see remnants of the colorful legacy of marriage at every socioeconomic level: the gold digger, the shotgun wedding, the offspring factory, the partnership or “merger,” etc. These marriages may meet some need in one or both partners, but they certainly don’t require love or even fidelity.


Returning to the original question: is celebrating these unions honoring the sacrament or “spirit” of marriage? Is this the relationship God had in mind when he put his first two kids together in the Garden?

Here’s the kicker, is the quality of the relationship more or less important than the quantity of men or women in it? If you believe it’s less, I’ll be the last person to ask you to compromise your beliefs or to share in our special day. Peace and love be with you. But, honestly, after seeing my share of abuse, infidelity and broken marriages, I think we shouldn’t just assume God is on board at every boy-girl wedding we attend.

But, even if you cannot fully celebrate the quantity of ladies in our marriage, but maybe you can be part of a celebration of love and commitment between two fellow humans.

Because, against all odds, by design, tradition or accident, people still like to couple up. And, when the coupling is characterized by love, willingness, mutual respect, honesty, faithfulness and joy, I think that’s a win for humanity all around.

Wedding Planning Update

Currently Occupying my Google “Wedding” Tasks List:

Done (because done is the funnest part!)

  • Wedding Dress!
  • Engagement Pictures
  • Save the Dates
  • Guest list finalized (sort of)
  • Hotel for Wedding Night
  • Booked: Venue, DJ, Ceremony Musicians, Caterer*, seating for wedding
  • Wedding day timeline

To Do (Soon)

  • Meet with DJ & Ceremony Musicians
  • Meet with Caterer
  • List for Rental Company
  • Honeymoon!
  • Mail Save the Dates
  • Fitting for Holly!

Seven months, kids!!

Engagement photos!

One year down!

Holly and I got engaged one year ago today! When we decided to push out the wedding date, I thought I would seriously go insane if I had to wait longer than a year. But now that we’re down to TEN MONTHS to the big day I keep thinking, oh man how am I going to get all this shiz done?

Whenever I get overwhelmed, I like making a list of what’s done and what’s next to do:


  • Chose our gang of Bridal Henchmen
  • Venue
  • Photographer
  • Booked our DJ
  • Started the process of booking our Honeymoon lodging
  • In talks with caterer
  • Bought a dress (uh, maybe)
  • Have pretty much the final draft of our guest list
  • Have contact info for 90% of our guest list
  • Scheduled engagement photos
  • Drafted ceremony script
  • Decided on general decor scheme/theme

To Do (for now):

  • Talk with our officiant about ceremony
  • Book honeymoon lodging and flights
  • Book wedding night lodging
  • Shop for Holly’s wedding clothes
  • Make shopping/look out for list for DIY projects
  • Design invitations

I guess that’s not so bad (see why I like making lists!)

T Shirt that says Two Brides are Better than One

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