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Wedding Toast

I am ambiguous about wedding toasts. Sometimes they’re sweet, but more often they’re awkward, cliche or just plain embarrassing. But the worst thing is that they’re compulsory! So your poor maid of honor, who may or may not be good at speeches, is left desperately trying to say something meaningful and memorable.

As if it wasn’t bad enough that the maid of honor/best man must give a speech, it’s becoming more and more common for people to open up the floor to anyone who wants to “say a few words.” And by, “a few words” I mean, as many damn words as they want, because it’s incredibly rude to interrupt someone in the middle of their toast to you. Add in some alcohol and you have a long, boring and potentially very uncomfortable experience for your guests.

Plus, it just feels weird to “schedule” a time in the wedding day timeline for people to say nice things about you.

Offbeat Bride (one of the best wedding planning sites on teh Internetz) shared a great post on this subject: Toasts: the wedding tradition that could probably just die and no one would care. They also offered some alternatives like offering the Guestbook as a way for people to share well-wishes or…and I’m super stoked about this one…doing a video confessional booth!

I especially like this idea because, although I love the Photo Booth idea, it’s been done to death and this offers a slightly different kind of fun, A/V-style activity for wedding guests if they get bored at the reception. AND it’s way less stressful for those who don’t like making speeches in front of a crowd. But here’s the cool thing: even if we don’t have the time/skill/inclination to put together a video booth, you can accomplish the same thing with a smart phone and Vine or Instagram.  I have a feeling that Social Media is going to be the best man at the wedding.

What do you think?

 

 

Hey, I got published!

One of my absolute favorite sites is Offbeat Bride. Obviously, it’s a huge favorite at the moment because I have weddings on the brain, but even beyond this, OBB is a wonderful community of authentic, welcoming, quirky folks who love to talk about anything, but especially weddings!

I had the opportunity to share a guest post on their blog today about a common question we face as an engaged lesbian couple: “Who’s the Groom?”

The Lovesick Bridal Expo

Holly and I along with Hanna, one of our Bridal Henchmen, went to the Lovesick Expo in Seattle recently. This was the first and one of the only Bridal Expos we’re probably going to attend. We had a great time!

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I Still Love You – An Ode to the Seahawks

I was looking at wedding vows today and somehow, this came out: In sickness and health, in good times and bad, in joy and sorrow, I take you with all of your faults and strengths. I promise to love you unconditionally, to support you as you strive for your goals, to cheer for you when you succeed and comfort you when you fall short. I promise to celebrate you in every season and off-season. I will stand against those who ridicule, penalize and fine you for ridiculous reasons. No concussion or torn ligaments will lessen my faith in you. Even if you call a passing play on the 1 yard line in the last 20 seconds of the Superbowl, my devotion will not waver. To the person (*cough* Dad! *cough*) who thinks I’m a band-waggoner: Ok, sure, I didn’t *get* football until I was 22 years old and, mayyybe the only names I knew before 2006 were Steve Largent and Matt Hasselbeck. But there was never any other team! And I think the fact that I didn’t throw a cupcake at Pete Carroll’s face on Sunday means something! I guess I’ll just have to keep showing up with flowers until my Father gives his blessing.

Lighting!

I’m OD’ing on lighting porn. Seriously.

Thanks Martha Stewart!

 

The moment I fell in love with you

It’s funny, most people can be around someone and they gradually begin to love them and never know exactly when it happened; but Ruth knew the very second it happened to her. When Idgie had grinned at her and tried to hand her that jar of honey, all these feelings that she had been trying to hold back came flooding through her, and it was at that second in time that she knew she loved Idgie with all her heart.

Fannie Flagg, Fried Green Tomatoes at the Whistle Stop Cafe

PDX + Party Bus (+ Ingress + Ice)

Car ride to PDX
Car ride to PDX

Holly’s sister’s birthday was on Saturday so we both took a three day weekend to hang out with the Portland family.

The forecast called for a severe winter storm covering the Tricities, Goldendale, and the Columbia Gorge from the Dalles the Troudale (basically our entire drive was going to be covered with wind, ice, and 1-6 inches of snow) but we hadn’t seen any of them since the engagement in July PLUS, Nichole’s boyfriend Stephen had rented a party bus for the evening to ferry us around Portland on Saturday night so there was no way we were going to miss it!

There was another way to get to PDX that added about 45 minutes to the trip but the severe weather warning had been dropped by Friday morning so we decided to chance it. I’m not going to lie, a big part of the reason we wanted to go through Tri-Cities had entirely nothing to do with time and everything to do with Ingress. After hacking our way around Tri-Cities for a few hours, we headed south for what should have been about 3 1/2 more hours of driving.

Two hours later, traffic was at a complete standstill.

Highlights of the ice storm on Friday

wpid-20141114_104735.jpgAlthough there was no snow, the highway between the Dalles and Portland (about 80 miles) was covered with ice. In all, there were 17 accidents on I-84 between us and Portland so the last 1 1/2 hours of our trip turned into about 3 1/2 hours. We were completely stopped for about 1 1/2 hours on the freeway. So Ella and I napped while Holly walked around and made friends with the other drivers.

After we got into Portland, we spent another 3 hours playing Ingress in the dark and freezing cold because we only had a few hours to reach the next level and win a special limited edition badge. It was important…I promise.

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Level 9, babes!

We were cold, grumpy and a little freaked out after driving through weird areas of Portland at 10pm but made it to Nichole and Jeremy’s house for Domino’s, Angry Orchard and sleep.

Saturday morning we slept late, drank Starbucks and went shopping for the Big Birthday. Everyone met up at the house before the bus arrived to relax and eat cookies and drink champagne. It was pretty much the perfect birthday crowd: silly enough to kitchen dance in front strangers but with the forethought to not be drunk by 7pm. Always thoughtful.

Even Turbo the Bichir was partying!

And the party bus was bomb. Obvs.

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In the meantime, a new timesuck…

So, our good friend (and Bridal Henchman!) Anna introduced us to a new game two weeks ago…

The world around you is not what it seems.

Ingress (in case you don’t play already) is…

“…an augmented reality massively multiplayer online role pglaying GPS-dependent game created by Naintic Labs, a startup within Google,”

..according to Wikipedia.

As with most of these games, there is a complex story behind the game, which is a huge part of it’s appeal. The cool thing about this game, though, is that it is developing in real time. Since you aren’t sitting on a couch playing the game (unless you have a couch portal like we do!), you don’t absorb the game story linearly as you play on your device, as you would a movie. It’s all very  revelatory, as if you’re discovering more about this mysterious “Niantic Project” as you play. What is exotic matter? Who are the Shapers??

Part The Matrix, part Capture the Flag, Ingress pits two “factions,” The Resistance (boooooo!!!), and the Enlightened (yayyyyy!) against one another in a war to control “Portals” where “exotic matter,” an alien energy source, enters the world.  This exotic matter or “XM” is believed to be capable of a kind of mind control or a human evolution, depending on what faction you’re in.

These portals are planted by users at physical locations based on a set of guidelines set by the game designers. Inspired by the back-story, these portals are generally set on historic sites, public artwork, cultural centers, places of worship, etc. Inspired by the sensitivities of the real world, they are prohibited near schools or on private property.

You can install virtual hardware on these portals to enhance the transmission of XM and defend the portal from the enemy team. Additionally, you can “hack” these portals to obtain items useful in the game. You obtain points for accomplishing different things in the game which allow you to achieve a higher level.

It takes several hours of gameplay to achieve enough points to level-up. I’ve been playing a week and I’m at a level 5, if that tells you anything about how obsessed I am with this game.

Beyond the practicalities of regular game-play, the creators of Ingress have had a lot of fun writing a companion story to keep story-lovers like Holly and me really engaged. You can check out this material online at The Niantic Project.

You can download the game for both Android and iPhone. If you do choose to play, make sure you join the right faction…

Resistance is futile, you will be Enlightened.

Date Change

We haven’t sent out Save the Dates or anything like that yet, but word has been spread that our Wedding Date is May 2, 2015. Well, Holly and I recently decided to change that to May 2016. The exact date is still up in the air at this point.

***UPDATE*** We’ve decided on May 21st, 2016. 

We had a couple reason for doing this, but the biggest one is we don’t want to put a cap on the guest list and, in order to do that, we want to save a bit more in our Wedding Fund than we will be able to in the next 7 months.

Truthfully we were a little bummed about this decisions, at least initially. But we’d rather wait and have everyone there than start having to not invite people we really care about and who are really excited for us.

And…well, yay for paying of loans and financially responsible decisions!!

If you’re still sad, console yourself with the amazing pictures from this other two-bride wedding!!

OffbeatBride.com
OffbeatBride.com
OffbeatBride.com

Gorgeous, no?!

MOARRRR PRETTY LESBIANS PLZ!

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